We are all different. Wow, I know, that's not exactly the most original idea, but hear me out. Every potential mother has a completely different view on the role of medicine, a wildly oscillating confidence level in doctors, and differing comfort level in a home or hospital setting. Not to mention each father-to-be brings a whole host of expectations, desires, and opinions. This combination of needs alone means there can't possibly be a single method that trumps all others every time.
Add to the mix the complexities of varying physical and mental factors. I was talking to a neighbor just the other day about her birthing experiences. Her hips don't widen far enough to release her babies. If she were a pioneer giving birth she would have died! C-sections have been the gift that made it possible for her to be a living mother to three beautiful daughters.
I have another friend who is completely open to the idea of natural birthing. However, out of love and respect for her husband, she hasn't seriously entertained the idea. His stress level associated with watching his wife in pain and slight OCD tendencies are strong enough that her interest in having him as a present, loving, comfortable supporter of the birthing experience outweighs her desire to go unmedicated.
I haven't shared my birth story on this blog because it was amazing. Not every birth is as peaceful as mine was. I felt prepared, educated, in control. Part of that came from my efforts, but most of it was chance. A healthy baby to a healthy mommy who inherited good birthing hips, no complications, no transport. That was mainly dumb luck. I guess I kind of want to share that story. With this preface maybe I'll feel safe to.